Loss and Grief Counselling
Loss and Grief
The death of a loved one, loss of a relationship, job, home, health, or something or someone special can result in grief. Loss and grief can be numbing, painful, confusing, and isolating. It profoundly impacts our relationships with ourselves and others and our sense of place.
Grief is our reaction to loss – anticipated, unexpected or a wish that never happened. Grief reactions impact our bodies, thoughts, emotions, relationships, behaviour, and beliefs. It is unique, with no timelines, stages or hierarchy to grief.
Grief counselling can be beneficial during times of anticipatory loss. For example, you may be a carer for a loved one with a terminal illness and find it difficult to confide in others or work through the overwhelm of the situation. Another example is when you may suspect that a relationship or friendship is changing or ending.
You might be experiencing disenfranchised grief if you can’t express your sorrow in your community. For example, the death of a beloved companion animal, death due to addictions, or a relationship that others have not accepted are all examples of disenfranchised grief.
Recent losses, whether sudden and unexpected or anticipated but not expected, might leave you in acute grief. Counselling can help normalise and validate the thoughts, emotions, and body sensations you may be experiencing, which may be intense or numbing. It can help to process what has happened and to experience compassionate and empathic support.
Private and confidential counselling offers a safe place to express your innermost thoughts and issues troubling you without the sense that assumptions or judgements are being made about you or your experience.
When should you seek help for your grief?
It’s never too early or too late for loss and grief counselling.
Consider getting extra support when your feelings become unpleasant and overwhelming and interfere with your daily functioning. Benefits include helping you to deal more effectively with stressful or challenging life circumstances, painful thoughts, and feelings.
What is my approach?
There are myths about loss and grief that have developed in our Western society. I’ll work with you to explore and articulate your grief – without passing judgment, making assumptions, or giving unsolicited advice.
Together we can work on strategies, and I can teach you skills to help you:
- deal with painful thoughts, worries and fears
- come to terms with loss and grief
- manage the impact of loss and grief on your relationships
- make healthy changes to your lifestyle
- cope with daily hassles
- manage stress, anxiety, depression
- find your place for this next chapter of your life.
Why seek support from Changes in Between?
I get grief! I have worked with people experiencing different kinds of grief, some of which they never thought was grief. I specialise in grief across the lifespan, including death and living losses, with over 25 years of experience in the field. I have experience working with people who are dying and facing death and mourners who are grieving the anticipatory loss and death of an important person, including sudden, unexpected and traumatic death. I also work with people mourning their dearly loved pets, and life transitions (from every form of change and loss across the lifespan).
Certified Thanatologist (Study of Dying, Death, and Bereavement) from the Association for Death Education and Counselling and Certified Bereavement Practitioner with Grief Australia – each requires regular recertification.
With the lived experience of grief and bereavement as a young widow, many living losses from change and transition over the years, and the grief of much-loved companion animals, I understand grief. But, most of all, I learn with my clients and know that everyone’s grief is unique.
You can try single-session counselling, followed by another at regular or infrequent intervals to suit your needs. If you suddenly find yourself in a grief storm, you can find an appointment at short notice on my booking page.
Honour Your Loss
“No one ever told me that grief felt so like fear.”
(C.S. Lewis, A grief observed, 1961).